The Balanced Fem

Generational curses are shadow patterns of behavior, belief systems, or energies that can pass down from one generation to the next. Often, these patterns are subtle, hidden, or even unconscious, yet they influence our lives, relationships, and choices in ways we may not immediately recognize. Generational curses can be created in many ways — some obvious, some not so obvious. In this post, we’ll explore and reflect on different ways these curses are formed.

Please be advised: As I continue to receive more insights and downloads, I will periodically update this post to include additional information.

• Sometimes generational curses are created through secrets because secrets carry energetic weight. They’re not just private thoughts— they’re bound up energy. When kept long enough they can become shame, fear, regret, silence, or distorted memory. Those patterns are imprinted into the psyche, then into the body, and are passed down through the mother. It’s not the silence that creates the curse; it’s the unresolved emotion fueling it. Silence can temporarily sanctify an energy/emotion, but it can’t hold it forever. Eventually, it must cross through vibration—into air, sound, and into witness. Both secrets & truths reverberate, however; shifts in frequency when speaking it is an act of alchemy—lifting shame into acceptance, grief into release, and, fear into understanding. So, the real question is: Are you honoring silence as sacred, or are you letting fear disguise itself as wisdom?

• Some generational curses are born when an offender refuses to take genuine accountability. In this case, they are not created by vengeance but by truth. When the distinction of who’s the “victim” and who’s the offender is determined in the spirit— the victim becomes a “judge” over the offender. The victim then anchors justice into the spiritual field simply by holding onto their truth, forcing the energy back to the offender. This is why offenders often pressure or emotionally manipulate their victims into forgiving them in order to neutralize that energy. Unresolved energy can be experienced as guilt, regret, shame, fear, or imbalance within the psyche of the offender. It is then embedded in the body and inscribed into their DNA. This is why entire families can carry the weight of one person’s betrayal. It is rarely the initial event that forms the curse, but the absence of closure— the unbalanced scales. Throughout the lineage this imbalance is interpreted as a spiritual debt, and remains until someone restores balance. Restoration may come through truth-telling, ritual, acknowledgment, or meaningful action. However, in these moments, the heart must be completely light without density. So the question is: Are you carrying the weight of someone else’s denial, or are you the one who needs to close the loop by owning what was done?